Choosing my engagement ring!

I don’t think I’ve written about my rings before! Here’s a post dedicated to my engagement ring + wedding bands before I forgot about our journey to choosing the one! #tohtallylokey

It all started when I read about #JannPaul on HWZ. So much so that I was the one who proposed setting an appointment with them instead of A doing it 😒 I wanted to choose my own ring because I’m going to be wearing it and I rather wear something that I like, rather than have the element of surprise and not like the ring A chose.

Prior to our trip, we had a discussion on A’s budget and what I wanted. From the start, I knew I wanted a ring with side diamonds. The smallest diamond size I’d like would be a 0.38. I thought it was dainty and not too tiny.

Our first visit to JannPaul

We were served by Joy. Every first visit at JP starts with an educational session on diamonds. She taught us on the 4Cs of diamond, showing us the different variety they have and how to identify a good diamond. For noobs like us, it was really useful. We, or rather I, had a fun time looking at all the various settings they have!

Best part is that customisation is available and it’s up to our imagination as to how we want to craft the ring. I was blown away by the service was JP. There was absolutely no hard-sell at any point of time!

Keeping our options open and having advice given to us, we went to other places like The Canary @ Delphi.

I cannot remember the person who served us but it wasn’t a nice experience.

Oh, given his budget, we could have gotten a bigger diamond at Canary than JP.


After our session at JP, we had a little more knowledge on diamonds but there wasn’t much explanation given to us. After knowing that I wanted something with side diamonds and our budget, she took out these TWO ring settings (as above) and a couple of diamond sizes. Briefly stated the 4Cs and asked if we want to confirm. What? Just like that? She didn’t seem keen on answering our questions nor did she seem very inclined to help us. We left and never went back.

A’s SIL and BIL brought us to Cartier and Tiff & Co. They wanted to show us that it IS possible to get a branded ring with A’s budget. I’m not someone who is very particular on the brand.

(Ring from tiff&co)

Well, it was indeed possible to get something with his budget. A 0.24 carat diamond. Nothing caught my eye despite it being branded. I thought my ‘minimum requirement’ of a 0.38 diamond was already very low, but 0.24 is.. tiny. I know different people have different preferences but it’s just not for me.

Besides, I didn’t like any of the ring settings too. Both were definitely out! However, from this trip, I learnt that A would have gotten a Tiff&Co ring for me if I didn’t insist on choosing my own ring! THANK GOD I SAID I WANTED A SAY IN IT.
We went back to JP quite a lot of times. I was hesitating between an Octagon diamond vs a Super Ideal. I really wanted the Octagon but given A’s budget, I can only get a low 0.4x carat, which won’t be obvious. Like, if i get a SI with 6 prongs, it’d also look like an Octagon so what’s the point?

Can you spot it?

Octagon at the top, SI below.

Octagon + side diamonds.

No side diamonds?


Now why did I not go for this flashy one?

A said to go for the SI, then I can get a bigger one. All in all, we made a total of 4 visits to JP and finally got it locked down! Being fickle-minded, there were a couple of times I texted Joy and even asked her to keep a diamond for me before my next visit.

Joy said that in all my visits, this is the one setting that I’ve picked out without fail. She purposely did not want to bring my attention to this setting when I was looking at it but I always go back to this one.

Speaking of which, do look for Joy if you’re there! She’s really a joy to work with 😊

We did not make any customisation, except to change the heart-shaped prongs to a normal claw prong.
Tips for choosing your engagement ring

These are just what I’ve learnt and is a non-exhaustive list of tips. It’s my first time choosing an engagement ring and diamond (hopefully not the last, LOL. *hint hint* HUBBY!)

Hopefully it will be useful to some of you 😊

1. Budget

You’re getting married soon and finance is something that both parties have to talk about sooner or later.

Set a budget for the ring. 5k? 10k? As long as you can afford it, why not?

You want it, but he thinks it’s too expensive/excessive. He wants it flashy for you, but you think the money could be better used in renovations.

Make sure both are comfortable with the budget otherwise the engagement ring will be used as ammunition in future disagreements.

2. 4C – Order of importance
So what’s more important for you? Carat? Colour? Clarity? Cut?

For me, it’s cut + colour > carat > clarity

I avoid H colour because that’s where the yellow tinge can be seen with your naked eyes.

Clarity wise, no SI levels for me. I keep my range from VVS1 to VS2.

Cut is important because that affects the sparkle of your diamond. It’s also the shape!

Bigger carat or a better clarity. I chose carat because this is much more noticeable. The inclusions can only be seen under the microscope.

3. Time
Time is needed to create your ring, more so for customized rings.

For JP, it’s about a month (from your deposit) for your ring to be ready. I can’t say anything for customized rings cos I understand the mould and everything requires more time.

Also set aside some time to test your ring and see if re-sizing is needed. My finger slimmed down (?!) and re-sizing took 3-4 weeks. I waited for 23 days before my baby came back.

4. Material – White gold or Platinum?
Platinum is naturally white whereas white gold is coated with rhodium plating which gives it a white look.

Over time, white gold will fade to a yellowish tinge but re-polishing and re-plating the ring makes it look as good as new again.

Durability-wise, platinum is stronger and more durable.

Platinum is also heavier than white gold. This means it’s also more expensive!

We went for white gold in the end because taking platinum means almost 1k more!

I don’t believe in getting a ring that MUST DIE DIE cost 3x of the monthly salary. If both parties are comfortable with whatever amount, then you’re good to go!

Eventually we were a little over his initial budget, because we took a bigger diamond. A wanted to get a bigger one for me and I felt a little guilty choosing this, but I guess after everything, I have no regrets! I hope he doesn’t too. LOL.

This is like the most expensive item I’ve ever owned and will own in the near future.

I’m still religiously cleaning/washing my ring on a weekly basis though! I think A is really proud of how I’m taking care of my babies aka rings. Lol!

We had a disagreement over this engagement ring though. I think it is our only HUGE argument to date.

A kept asking why there is a need for an engagement ring and he seemed very reluctant to get it. I know it’s a marketing strategy by the De Beers brothers but hey, it’s once in a lifetime okay. Well, so glad that’s over now.

Oops didn’t realize this is such a long post. Will keep our wedding bands for the next one then!